The other day I was standing in the kitchen, doing that hold-open-the-refrigerator-door-thing, hoping that supper would just magically prepare itself before my eyes.
As unmotivated to cook as I was…I knew if I didn’t make anything to eat, the family wouldn’t have a meal that night.
Later that evening as my normally no-problem-sleeping baby girl cried her eyes out, obviously having trouble settling down, it hit me…if I don’t pick her up and snuggle her, nothing will calm her down.
Sometimes in motherhood I wish someone would come “rescue” me, let me off the hook even if just for a minute. But the reality is this: as a stay-at-home mom, I am on call 24/7, responsible for my home and the life of my family. Sure, many of us are blessed with loving husbands who are great helpers, and some have grandparents living nearby or babysitters just a phone call away. We can be grateful for the breaths of fresh air we get at times, but ultimately…
Motherhood is about BEING THE ANSWER.
At times I wish someone more structured and determined than me would come along and teach my kids to clean after themselves. But it’s MY job to reinforce it.
It would be nice if I had a cleaning fairy to conquer the pile of dirty dishes in the sink and vacuum the bedrooms, but it’s MY responsibility to be a good housekeeper.
After a long day of my toddler testing his boundaries I’m tempted to give in and let him get away with stuff, but I know that if I don’t confront his disobedient behaviour it will only get worse.
Dear Mama, I don’t write this to make you feel guilty for not doing enough. I know we all have our hands full and I realize it’s impossible to do everything. Perhaps in the early years of raising children it’s the most demanding: we are, very physically, the answer to hunger, and then we are the ones who help our babies sleep, teach them to sit, stand, and eventually eat, walk and talk. As they grow older we may not be the only answer to their needs anymore, but we still shepherd them in how to show affection, share, help, and forgive. And once they’re in their teenage years (if not before), we’ll realize that they need answers that are beyond us.
It’s not always about KNOWING the right answers to our children’s problems, but letting our PRESENCE be the solution to their need.
Friend, how can you be present in your child’s life today? How can your presence make a difference in the atmosphere of your home? Find something to be INTENTIONAL about today, whether it’s spending 15 minutes of undistracted time with your son or daughter or checking something off your household to-do list.
And if you need some inspiration on how much impact little things can have, watch this adorable video clip: